Once you’ve identified your feelings and your needs, then you can better come up with strategies to meet your needs. If I recognize that I’m needing presence, for example, I can choose to spend some time in meditation, rather than choosing a strategy that may at first seem more pleasant (such as mindlessly surfing online, eating three chocolate bars, or watching television for five hours), but probably won’t meet my underlying need.
Can you identify what you’re really needing? What are one or two effective strategies you could use to truly meet that need? If you’re interested in learning more about how to apply Nonviolent Communication in your own life, you might like this book.
Detail of art journal spread, July 2008. Wax crayon on paper.